
After the wedding reception ends, the marriage takes over. Always make the most of it!
What makes an ocean wave wave? What makes a marriage successful? These two questions have totally different answers. One is scientific and one is not. The answer to the second question can be left up to interpretation, whereas the first question has a definitive answer that cannot be disputed.
I got married before a lot of my friends and as a result, have been asked this very question numerous times over the years. I’ve been happily, (and successfully), married for fifteen years and I can honestly say that my interpretation of a successful marriage has not really changed in that time. Sure some day to day things change and tweeking may be required from time to time, but my core beliefs have never changed.
Among the most important qualities a successful marriage will possess are honesty, respect, trust and communication.
- If you are not being honest with your spouse or yourself, you are going to run into problems.
- If you do not respect your spouse as a person and recognize that he/she still needs to maintain individuality, you will never grow as a couple and your spouse will never live up to your expectations.
- If you do not trust your spouse, you let negative things like jealousy into the marriage. Jealousy is never good! Always trust your spouse unless you are given a reason not to.
- Communication is so important in any relationship, but particularly in marriage. I know so many couples that would’ve stayed together or who are still together but would be a lot happier if they would just talk to one another! Discussing life’s daily victories and defeats and communicationg goals, (personal, financial, etc.), really will make you a stronger couple! when the left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing, (or wants to do), you run the risk of marital disaster!
Of course there is more involved than this, but I believe this is a great starting point. Curve balls will probably crop up along the way, but if you’re working off of a good foundation, you’ll have a better chance of weathering marital storms! After the wedding reception and the honeymoon are over, it’s time to buckle in and hold on for a great ride! I’ll leave you with two last thoughts to ponder:
- Marrying the right person for you will go a long way in making a smooth transition into Mr. & Mrs. Marrying the wrong person, (even for the right reasons), is almost always detrimental!
- There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Check your status from time to time!